Ear Piercing Twinning

Our mother-daughter bonding last weekend: Ear Piercing Twinning! 👯

Now that she’s conversational, we help her understand physical pain and how to prepare for and navigate around it. We started doing this during her vaccination sessions. So far the last one has been succesful. This one, too.

Litol one is so cute with her topaz earrings. 😍


I’m proud of our little girl,

I told my husband in between washing the dishes.

This following an incident with another kid. It was all our first time to witness a kid treat our little girl a bit harshly. We were going out of the resto where we had our lunch, right after attending mass last Easter.

Bellabot was amused walking up a ramp. I did not assist her so she was mighty proud when she reached the top and clapped her hands. That’s when we saw another kid looking at us.

“Bellabot say ‘Hi!'”, I encouraged her. And in true Bellabot fashion, she eagerly waved at the kid and smiled at her. The kid slowly approached us with a glint in her eye, looking friendly. And then…


She hit Bella in the face, making her fall on the floor. I was shocked and all I can say was “No, baby…”, looking at the xgirl while immediately checking if our little girl is OK. She was, but looked a bit shaken.

“Bella, get up.”, I told her gently. She did and dusted of her hands.

“Strong girl?”,

I prompted which made her immediately do her strong girl pose. Despite balling her fists and raising them in front of her, despite putting on a brave face, I saw her holding back her tears.

And my heart just broke…

By then, all I can do is hug her and talk to her, looking her directly in the eyes. I know that our little girl can’t speak yet, but I know that she understands us. So I make it a point to always talk to her especially on occasions of heightened emotions. She did not cry but she did hug me tight and did not let go for a while.

And my heart just broke once more…

It took a while before she smiled again and acted like her usual self. It took a while before the red gash on her face, caused by the other’s girls smacking, disappeared. It took a while but she turned out fine. The day ended with her enjoying our grocery shopping — it was also her first time to ride the grocery cart, something that both my husband and I have been looking forward to do once she’s able.

“I’m proud of you, too…”,

my husband told me before kissing my forehead. He then told me how amazed he was at how calm I handled the whole situation, how good I am with Bellabot and around the house, and how I have changed for the better.

I felt warm all over. I realized that I, too, needed my strong girl affirmation.

Warrior 2 for Our Warrior 2

The past 9 months has been a roller coaster of emotions. On the first weekend of March, we found out that I’m pregnant. This is a very much welcomed news because for the past 3 years, we’ve been praying for a rainbow baby. Prior, I’ve met with several OBGs from different hospitals and clinics just to get the best advise and medication for my PCOS. They were years of hopes and wishes, and heartbreaks and fears. So this was, of course, an ecstatic moment for us.

A mere 2 days after the good news, however, I had bleeding and was diagnosed with threatened miscarriage. I was on bed rest for a whole week, only allowed movement when going on bio breaks. It was a very nerve wracking moment for us. Memories of my past miscarriage kept going back and it didn’t help with my stress levels.

In the midst of this is the growing concern about COVID-19. News of increasing death toll around the globe was getting alarming that we weren’t really surprised when the President announced that the country will be on quarantine. We weren’t allowed to go out unless it’s for a necessity. Work from home was mandated by both of our companies. Although it took away the toll of daily commute and dangers of being exposed and contracting the virus, it was still generally a big stressor for us.

I was about to make a big life decision but when the news of the pregnancy broke and upon learning about our delicate condition, I decided to park them. In my mind, the baby is our #1 priority. I also requested my manager to pull me out of a highly-stressful engagement because it wasn’t helping with my overall state. He was kind enough to agree.

I was on progesterone for the whole of my first trimester to make sure that the baby stays safe, and to avoid another miscarriage. I was looking forward to the end of our 12th week when a friend announced her unfortunate miscarriage. She just completed her first trimester, which got me asking: I thought we’re generally safe when we get past the first trimester? Is there no safe time for pregnancy?

Then came a celebrity’s sad news about her baby dying after delivery. Photos of her crying with her husband on the hospital was all over Twitter and it’s enough to break anyone’s heart. Which got me asking again: Is there no safe time for pregnancy?

Some people think that the moment you get pregnant again, you automatically get over a previous miscarriage. Not sure with the others, but that’s not how it worked for me. Having this baby did not prevent me from thinking about and talking about Ezra. He will always be a part of our family. He will always be “my firstborn”.

Although I did not want my experience to maim me in what’s supposed to be the most exciting moment of our lives, it was hard not thinking about what could go wrong. There were times when I would wake up in the middle of the night from a bad dream — a dream where either I had a miscarriage again or I delivered a stillborn.

It was really hard so I just kept reminding myself that I have to be strong for our baby.

When I got cleared by my doctor to resume physical activities after our first trimester, I immediately geared towards making myself stronger and healthier. After all, a strong and healthy mama helps in having a strong and healthy baby. I was also aiming for a vaginal birth at that time so it was really important to build my stamina and strengthen my mindset so I don’t easily give up when the pains of labor comes in.

Slowly but surely, I was able to establish a routine and I’ve never felt more disciplined than ever. I found comfort in yoga and meditation. And since I cannot run outside, I tried doing pregnancy-safe cardio and strength exercises, too. Day by day, I felt stronger and more confident with my pregnancy. The oxytocin from my daily workout also gave me the boost to get thru my day.

Although, to be honest, there was still a part of me that held me back from giving general announcements or organizing baby showers and the likes. In my mind, I need to focus more on what matters to us the most: preparing for a safe delivery with no complications. It doesn’t matter whether the baby’s a boy or a girl, what matters more is I get to see him or her alive and hold him or her in my arms. It doesn’t matter if we don’t have baby showers; we’re on lockdown anyway. It doesn’t matter if we don’t have the big baby announcements; the people who matters to us the most already know.

And honestly, I found it sweet to be with and grow with the baby in our semi-secret state. All 9 months of it.

Fast forward to today, I am now a happy mama to a healthy baby girl. Although I wasn’t able to achieve my target vaginal delivery, I felt that the preparations that I did was not in vain. My labor story was something else, but it’s an interesting topic for next time.

The preparation gave me the strength that I needed while enduring the pains of labor. It also kept my fears at bay. According to one doula that I followed during my pregnancy, “the more you know, the less you fear”.

My being strong did not end upon my giving birth. Being a mama to a newborn is not a walk in the park. The cute photos and videos, the funny coos, the addicting baby smell… all comes with fatigue, restlessness, worries, and, yes, frustrations. So I’m thankful that the mindset, discipline, and patience that I learned during my pregnancy are still very helpful now. Whenever my mind drifts towards the negative, I let it. But then I stop, take a deep breath, and pull it back to a place of calmness and gratitude. I remind myself why we prayed for this baby for so long. And now our prayer has finally been granted.

In my mind, I need to be a warrior for our little warrior.

Note: I realized that I was not able to publish this at the time of writing (December 4, 2020) so I’m doing this now. How apt since our dear Bellabot is 9 months old today. From 9 months ago to 9 months after...